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Submitted by: Anthony Malibu
Getting your ex girlfriend to miss you… it seems complicated, right? But in fact, your girlfriend could
be missing you, and just not even showing it. Especially if she’s the one who broke up with you, your ex will be very guarded about what she lets you see, and not see.
If your girlfriend broke off your relationship and you still want her back, making her miss you is job number one. Because until she actually
in her life again, you really have no shot of reversing your breakup.
There are 4 stages your ex will go through after breaking up with you, and each one brings you a little bit closer to reconciliation. The more you can subtly guide your ex girlfriend along this very lonely path, the easier it will be to get her back.
Stage One – Burying Her Feelings For You
The first thing your ex will do after giving you the breakup speech is start burying any leftover or residual feelings she still has for you. Ignoring feelings is always easier than dealing with them, and it’s especially easy while the breakup is still fresh.
The more you push her at this stage, the further removed from you she’ll be able to emotionally get. Don’t shove your ex away by pressing or trying to change her mind immediately after the breakup… getting her to miss you is more about leaving her alone and allowing her the time to experiencing the breakup in a very solo way.
Stage Two – The Hole Where You Used To Be
After a few days go by, your ex girlfriend will really start to feel the impact of not having you around. She’s probably filled those first few days with activites, keeping herself busy with family and friends. But afterward, those first few lonely nights without seeing or hearing from you will get her thinking about you once again.
Remember, while you dated you were a huge part of your ex’s daily life. In breaking things off, you abruptly disappeared. This left a hole in her life that she’s trying to fill with other stuff. She’ll start missing the things you used to do together, and the places you used to go.
Stage Three – Facing The Breakup Alone
When a week’s worth of time has passed without hearing from you, the realization will dawn upon your girlfriend that she’s really, truly alone. Hopefully you’ve left her alone and haven’t called, emailed, or texted her. By NOT doing those things, your ex has to face the breakup all by herself – without the strength and comfort of knowing you still want her back.
This is where she’ll get uncertain. Your ex will start questioning the breakup during this phase, simply because she hasn’t heard from you. In her mind, you should’ve probably tried to get her back by now. The fact that you haven’t is a very big blow to her ego, and to her resolve to keep the breakup going.
Stage Four – Seeing You Move on With Your Life
The timing of this stage depends on certain factors, but it occurs the first time your ex actually sees or hears about you again. This is where it’s important to be out, active, hanging with friends, doing cool things, and generally having a great time without your ex. Because once your girlfriend gets wind of these things? She’ll miss you ten times as much as before.
Your ex doesn’t want to see you successfully moving on with your life right now. It’s not that she wishes bad things on you, it’s more that she’d rather see you upset and miserable because you can’t be with her anymore. This is what would justify the breakup, and make her feel confident in her decision. But seeing you act as if the breakup hasn’t affected you one bit? That’s going to drive your ex crazy with jealousy, as well as make her miss having and sharing those good times with you.
Getting Back Together With Your Ex Girlfriend
If you can get your ex to miss you, you can certainly get her back. Reconciliation is only a few steps away, once your ex girlfriend has a genuine need for you in her life again.
That said, you need to be careful with how you proceed. Move too fast and you could tip your hand. Move too slowly and you could give the wrong impression: that you no longer want to get back together. Somewhere in the middle is the right approach, and it’s always best to have a step by step plan when you want to get your girlfriend back.
About the Author: There are 6 Individual Steps necessary to
Getting Her Back
, so find out what they are! The faster you get proactive about handling your breakup, the sooner you can get her to miss you again. And for more information on reestablishing contact, check out
Contacting Your Ex Girlfriend